The Case For D.I.Y.

I’ve come to the realisation that having someone to do things for us can make us very lazy very quickly, and can actually change our personality and values on quite a deep level.Hired help

This is coming from the perspective of someone living as an expat in what would be termed a “third world” or “developing” country where, to put it crudely, the white people hire the brown people to do the jobs they don’t want to do. It’s not uncommon for a family living on an expat wage to have a full-time cleaner/cook, nanny, and driver, as well as a gardener and pool guy dropping in every day or two. A totally different living standard to what they’d be able to afford back in their home country. (However  I am not talking about the executive type person like my friend in Rockingham WA, who is used to taking stretched limousine to the airport, for example)

My comment today is not about the terrible white/brown socioeconomic divide; it’s about the effect that this level of home help has on the white people involved.

A couple of examples that I noticed just in the last week:

  1. I got a lift with a friend who has a driver. She wanted to stop off at the supermarket on the way. Her driver dropped her off at the front door – fine – and then parked in the closest available space, probably about 15 steps from where he dropped her off. I waited in the car. When she emerged with her small bag of shopping, rather than walk the few steps to the car, she waited at the door for her driver to come around and pick her up. It left me wondering, how on earth did she manage when she was doing the weekly shop by herself?

Later, we got out of the car and went around to the boot and she WAITED FOR HER DRIVER TO COME AND OPEN IT FOR HER! I was shocked. She’s not a nasty person but I really didn’t like the way she was acting with such a sense of entitlement.

  1. 2. A retired friend has been living in a villa with a lady coming to clean and cook for her a couple of hours a day. She’s moving to a different area and is wondering how she will cope when she has to cook and clean for herself. It’s not that she’s unable to look after herself for health reasons; she’s still pretty young and active. It’s just that she’s got so used to having someone to do these jobs for her, she doesn’t want to – or doesn’t think she’ll find the time to – do them herself. Hearing her complain about this just drives me crazy – I don’t have someone to cook or clean for me, and I have a 1-year-old child to look after! The reality is that she’ll soon find someone new to come and do her dirty work for her once she moves.

I feel like these people need a reality check. If they could go back 10 years and get a look at their future selves, what would they think? I expect the idea of such arrogance would horrify them.

Am I innocent in all this? I suppose not. I got a little glimpse of the privileged life a couple of months back, when I had a lady who worked 3 mornings a week helping to look after my daughter and clean the house. I used the free time to get some work done, and it was fantastic knowing I had that time scheduled in rather than having to snatch half an hour here and there whenever I could.

But if I’m honest, I did get a bit lazy about cleaning, knowing that she would be there the next day to do it for me. She was only there for three weeks, but even that was enough time for my attitudes to start to shift. When she stopped coming, I was left with no choice but to mop the floor myself, and guess what – I coped!

As human beings we have an amazing ability to adapt to new situations, but I don’t think this is always a good thing. It can bring out the best in us and make us resourceful, cooperative, inventive creatures. Or it can bring out a darker side of laziness and superiority.

Is it time you gave yourself a reality check?

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Leadership According to Kelly Poulas


Whilst in Jakarta approximately 10 years ago i was lucky enough to meet writer, speaker, and Leader, Kelly Poulas.

Kelly is a dynamic, practical go getter who demands full-in commitment and she get’s it from most people since they know that whoever gets in the mix with Kelly are likely in for a leadership learning roller coaster resulting in becoming a more advanced  knowledgeable leader themselves.

The following is a summary of a classic Leadership interview with Kelly some years ago.

Question: When Starting a Project how to get people to buy into your project and get them into action. Continue reading “Leadership According to Kelly Poulas”

Transhumanists, Batman and Termites

Trans-Humanism – it’s a cover-up

Batman and transhumanismI have just come across the movement and philosophy of trans-humanism. The transhumanists main aim is to overcome mortality… to go beyond human, extend life beyond death, etc.

What these people do not understand is that all they are doing is putting on a glorified batman costume.
Putting on a cape and mask DID transform kids purely in their imagination. It transformed their thoughts and helped them become more confident etc.

NOW, because of the advance in technology we can do a lot more than put on a mask, but the effect is the same. It is just a cover up.
Having a bionic arm or leg or helping the mind tap into more knowledge through computer systems will NOT (will never) replace or come even close to replicating the conscious and even more importantly the subconscious mind.

To extend life beyond death, to defeat mortality is a pipe dream of those who are unaware or who have a disbelief of the spiritual realm.

Yes technology is going Continue reading “Transhumanists, Batman and Termites”

Evolution Vs Creation – What Does Science Say?

The Debate

evolutionThis debate has been going on since Darwin wrote his paper on evolution all those years ago. It will probably continue ad-infinitum.

My first question was… How come science has not been able to conclusively tell us which of these theories is correct?.. and end this debate once and for all. The answer to that question lies in the question… that is,  BOTH Evolution and Creation are PURE theories and neither of them have been conclusively proven by science.

Let’s take each theory one at a time:

Evolution Theory.

Most of the average population would say Continue reading “Evolution Vs Creation – What Does Science Say?”

Here By Chance Or Design

evolution or design

Why Are We Here?

If we believe that we were brought into this world by chance and randomness then the answer to the question – why are we here?.. is what?

If we happened here by chance the answer to that question is “no reason” ie “there is no reason why we are here, no purpose” … in fact there is no point in asking or answering the question.

If this is the case then the question “how can i be a good person?” or “how can you be a good person?” has Continue reading “Here By Chance Or Design”

Hello, welcome to straight talk..

Hey folks… welcome to my Straight Talk web blog.
Not everyone is going to agree with what i say in this site BUT then you have the right to start your own weblog and voice your own opinion… right?
However, maybe you should take a non-stance approach and see things from another’s point of view. In fact that is exactly how i have formed these opinions … by listening to others with wider experience than me and with an attitude of: Continue reading “Hello, welcome to straight talk..”